Introduction
I am currently reading “The Power of the Pussy” by Kara King. If you are reading this blog post right now, you need to stop reading immediately, and get a copy of this book, and start reading it. This book is a perfect compliment to and validation of the material in the manosphere. Why? Because Kara honestly and transparently reveals all the nasty, narcissistic, manipulative, and cutthroat ways women use their pussies to control men. It’s all right there, spelled out for you in this book you get for free as a Kindle Unlimited member.
I hope every man on the planet reads this book and we make Kara a lot of money because she deserves it. What other woman would do us the favor of organizing all of women’s dirty tricks into a book written at a 4th grade level (a necessity since it’s written for women) that anyone can understand? Women are never honest about the tricks they use! I hope Kara wins a Pulitzer for her work in undermining the Feminine Primary Social Order like this. This book is so quotable, that I am copying and pasting nearly every line in my Kindle reader. It’s going to provide me with content ideas for decades. Thanks Kara!
This is not a small thing. We currently live in a Feminine Primary Social Order because hundreds of millions of women have used their pussies to convince men to hand over governmental and societal power without a single shot fired. Usually in human history, a lot of people must be horrifically slaughtered to pull off a coup and regime change of this magnitude. Entire cities are reduced to rubble and millions are killed. But women now control our society and government, not because they fought for it conventionally on the battlefield, but because men HANDED IT OVER TO THEM. This is the power of the pussy, and you should never underestimate it. If you’re a man reading this, the pussy probably dominates your life, and it will continue to dominate your life until you take great action to unplug yourself from the feminine matrix that controls modern society. TAKE THIS VERY SERIOUSLY!
Onto the blog post…
The Most Important Rule Of All Is Controlling Your Sexual Desire
Quotes from Kara King’s “The Power of the Pussy”:
“Pussy is a commodity. Men wouldn’t pay for it, if it didn’t have value. You could throw pussy on the stock market and it would trade with the diamonds and gold. Even better than diamonds and gold, pussy has the magical ability to have a drastic price range. Pussy can range from free, all the way to millions of dollars.”
“Wives of faithful men put a price tag of “honesty and faithfulness,” and didn’t sell until they were sure they had a faithful and honest man. Wives of wealthy men put a price tag of “luxury and money,” and didn’t sell until they got their asking price.”
“Their need for sex is a great weakness. Combine that weakness with your pussy, and you are now armed with your greatest weapon. Don’t feel bad about it. They prey on our emotions. We are going to prey on their need for sex. See, we don’t necessarily need to have sex. Sure, we love sex too and we want to have a good time. But let’s be honest. It’s not a desperate need for us, like it is for them.”
“Did you know that if a man doesn’t ejaculate, he will eventually start to feel a mental build up from not having sex? It has to get out! He may jack off and that will suffice for a while, but eventually he is going to feel an INTENSE NEED to have sex. Meanwhile, we could avoid sex for months and it wouldn’t bother us nearly as much. This is our advantage.”
“Men are like little boys with their toys. Make them wait, make them work, make them pay, and then they will love you, appreciate you, and take good care of you.”
“You must realize that what you have in between your legs is a valuable tool to get men to do whatever you want them to do. Your vagina is the ultimate power! She will help you manipulate men and get them to bend over backwards at your will. Respect her. She’s your new best friend.”
“THE CORRECT WAY TO USE THE POWER OF YOUR PUSSY IS TO NOT GIVE IT UP FREELY. A MAN MUST EARN THE RIGHT TO HAVE SEX WITH YOU. HE MUST PUT FORTH EFFORT TO PROVE HE IS WORTHY OF YOU.”
“Test his true feelings by making him wait. Wait at least 60 days. Two months is the least amount of time you should wait before having sex. If he’s stuck around after you have rejected him and he waited patiently for two months or longer, he’s proven that he’s not trying to use you.”
I agree with everything Kara has said in the quotes above. Men’s greatest weakness is their inability to control their sexual desire.
I will say it a million times, and a million times more, SEX SHOULD NEVER BE A MAN’S #1 PRIORITY IN LIFE! You should always value yourself and your time far more than sex with a woman! If you can’t say no to sex with a toxic woman, than you will NEVER BE FREE. Women will have you shackled and controlled for the rest of your life!
Now a lot of men are going to have a hard time understanding what I am saying here. Isn’t the whole point of reading manosphere content to get more sex with women? No, that’s not the whole point, actually. If that is your whole point, you will never be totally free from women’s control over you. THE POINT OF READING MANOSPHERE CONTENT IS TO GET COMPLETE CONTROL OVER YOUR LIFE, ALWAYS CONTROL THE FRAME, AND STOP WOMEN FROM CONTROLLING YOU!
When you are with a woman, never ask “How am I going to have sex with her?” Instead always ask, “What will it cost me to have sex with her?” Have sex with the woman when the cost is low and reject the women when the cost is high. It’s that simple.
You should read about the “Myth of the Quality Woman” if you are struggling with what I am presenting. Many men believe that a woman who gives up sex fast is a “low quality woman” and a woman that makes a man wait is a “high quality woman”. This is exactly what women want you to think because it plays into their manipulation of you. THERE IS NO QUALITY WOMEN! You need to understand and internalize this before you will be able to reliably reject all the women that make you wait for sex.
Don’t get me wrong, sex is great. As men, we were basically put on this planet to do it, and I want to fuck every attractive woman I see. That never goes away. But we are HUMANS and MEN, not animals. Every man has the ability to control his sexual desire and “turn it off” when the sex will not be worth the cost he has to pay to get it.
The reality is, sex is great, but it’s not WORTH giving anything for. And if you don’t feel that way, you need to fuck 100 more women without marrying them or getting into a relationship, and then come back and read this post. The reality is that once you’ve fucked a certain amount of women, you realize that getting more notches in your belt isn’t really worth much effort. Sex gives you temporary gratification that fades, kind of like heroin. But getting sex doesn’t make you an Alpha male and it doesn’t make you happy.
You should always get sex absolutely free from women, and NEVER PAY FOR IT. “What do you mean, never pay for it? I have to take her out for drinks before I bring her back to my place and fuck her right?” Many times I’ve met a woman for drinks, she has paid for it, and we went back to my place and fucked. If you’re a high value Alpha in her eyes, she will literally do anything you want her to. And she will give you the best sex of your life because SHE HAS A GENUINE BURNING DESIRE FOR YOU AND THE SEX WAS NOT NEGOTIATED. You should try it!
Figure out ways to avoid spending money on her and/or make her pay for the dates while still fucking her. Believe me, it’s more than possible. Thinking that you always have to pay, and that she won’t fuck you if you don’t pay, is blue-pill programming. Most men are so afraid of “screwing up” an opportunity with a woman that they never try anything new on dates, so they always get the same results. You should be treating dates as social experiments, not special opportunities to meet your imaginary “soul mate”.
It seems like even the most red-pill men in the manosphere struggle to wrap their heads around not paying and still getting laid. Don’t they realize that a man paying for things in a society where women have equal or greater pay is just another useless social construct that only serves women? Why do these men reject other obvious lies and manipulations of the Feminine Imperative, but they still cling to the one that empties their bank accounts? That’s insanity and I won’t be a part of it.
The best Alpha males control the frame, control the sex, and make her pay for everything. Why not? That’s what nearly every woman has done to men for the last 100 years. I thought women wanted equality, right? They are self-proclaimed “strong independent women” that don’t need a man’s money! Remember that being “honorable” or “chivalrous” as a man is worthless because those concepts were implanted in men by the Feminine Imperative to serve women only. The only thing always paying for dates gets you is less money in your bank account.
If a woman rejects a man for not paying, that proves that she’s a gold digger, and not paying is a great way to filter toxic women out of your life. That woman that just rejected him could have been his next ex-wife that took half of his assets! She probably would have rejected him anyways and the money had nothing to do with it. If she has genuine burning desire to fuck him, then who pays for the date is irrelevant to her. In fact, she would be happy to pay and she would fuck him right after.
And who cares if she rejects him for not paying? There was not anything special about her. She was not the unique “goddess”, “princess”, or God’s gift to men that she thinks she is. He’s saved some money and there’s a million women on online dating waiting to be the next in line for him. This entire notion that men should pay for dates is ridiculous in modern society because women have plenty of their own money. Paying for everything is not red-pill and it needs to be abandoned completely.
If you ever find yourself giving a woman anything, or paying for anything, in order to get sex with her, you are losing the game, and you are being a Beta. You can take her out for drinks and pay for it, but if you’re doing that to have sex with her, you’re losing the game. You can pay for the drinks just because you want to, or because you’re a generous guy, or because you have plenty of money to burn. But as soon as you turn that payment for drinks into an expectation of sex, you are losing the game, and she will know it. She will capitalize, to the fullest extent possible, on your Beta mathematical equation, which is your money equals her pussy. She will drive the price of her pussy up into the stratosphere once she realizes you think it’s valuable enough to pay for.
Only Beta males pay for sex, and it’s bad obligatory sex at that. It’s the exact same as buying a hooker. That hooker doesn’t respect the man or have a genuine burning desire for him. She’s fucking him because it’s been negotiated and she has an obligation to do it. She doesn’t want or enjoy that sex, and the same holds true for any woman a Beta male pays for.
Women’s dualistic sexual strategy is Alpha Fucks and Beta Bucks. Alpha males always get sex for free. In fact, Alpha males get women to buy them things, and they fuck them too. This is because the Alpha male values himself enough to never pay for sex. He believes in his own worth, and that the woman is lucky to get the chance to fuck him and spend time with him. He doesn’t accept passionless, negotiated sex from women in his life.
He also doesn’t value the sex very much. As soon as she starts trying to withhold sex to extract resources out of him, he drops her and moves on to another woman or something else in his life. The Alpha male knows that a woman’s ONLY power over a man is her pussy, and he never allows her to have that power over him.
Ironically, once you stop caring about sex with any particular woman, you end up having much more sex with women, because you’ve taken their power away, and this makes them really want to fuck you FOR FREE. They know you’re different and Alpha when they can’t control you and their beauty and pussy magic does not work on you. You actually have to devalue sex in your mind to the point where it’s always free and easy for you to get. And if you don’t get it with a particular woman, no big deal. There’s always another pussy around the corner…
Evolve Past Plate Spinning
Being able to control your sexual desire is an evolution higher than plate spinning. To be clear, you must first master plate spinning before you can master your own sexual desire. That’s why I say that mastering your sexual desire is “past” plate spinning. I’m not suggesting you should give up spinning plates.
The idea of plate spinning is that a man will avoid valuing sex too much with any particular woman because he’s fucking multiple women at all times. Since he’s getting sex from all over the place, if one woman tries to play games with her pussy and withhold sex, he’s got other pussy in the warm-up box and ready to bat next.
Spinning plates doesn’t always equal control of sexual desire though. What happens if the plates stop spinning and he gets down to one plate? If he hasn’t mastered his own sexual desire yet, he might get trapped by that one woman, and eventually manipulated into a marriage with her.
I spin plates. It’s a lot of fun and it’s usually how I live my life. But I can also stop spinning plates for a while, and be completely alone, and still enjoy my life without any sex with women. That’s power. If you need plates to always be spinning in your life to be happy, you don’t control the plates, they control you.
You must get to this higher level of evolution to prevent women from ever controlling you again. Because she will always attempt to control you with her pussy. Once she controls you with her pussy, then she progresses to controlling you through your emotional need for her. Once you need her pussy and you need her emotionally, she has total control over you, you’re in Compromised Masculinity, and that’s a miserable, emasculating psychological space for men to be in. Once you’re in this space, her leaving you and/or cheating on you is inevitable, and it’s just a matter of time before she destroys you.
This Is Why You Don’t Wait for Sex
As red-pill men, we always NEXT women that make us wait for sex. This is one of the commandments of our red-pill religion. This is not because sex is the only thing we care about. It’s because we care about ourselves more than women and sex and we have an abundance mentality.
Your initial frame with a woman will dictate the trajectory of that interaction indefinitely into the future.
Kara King has made it abundantly clear that the beginning of a relationship with a woman is a battle. The first few dates are about taking control. The woman is trying to manipulate the man into investing as much as possible before sex, and the man is trying to get sex as fast as possible while investing the least, or at least he should be. The outcome of this initial battle is going to set the tone for the remainder of the relationship.
As a man, you must have extremely strict and clear boundaries on how you are going to handle a woman not giving sex to you immediately. Kara has made it clear that when a woman doesn’t give you sex immediately, it always means she is trying to manipulate and dominate you. Many red-pill authors and myself can also confirm this is true. She’s never making you wait for sex for her stated reasons, which are: she’s “not comfortable”, “wants to get to know you better”, or “doesn’t feel safe”. My favorite excuse women give is that “she isn’t that type of girl”. This is hilarious because you know she has been “that type of girl” that fucks on the first meeting with Alpha males in her past. Remember, the medium is the message with women, not the words. Always take her words with a grain of salt and instead know her mind by what her behaviors tell you.
READ KARA’S WORDS AND OPEN YOUR EYES. SHE’S MAKING YOU WAIT FOR SEX BECAUSE SHE THINKS YOU’RE A WEAK, PATHETIC CHILD THAT ONLY THINKS WITH HIS DICK AND CAN’T CONTROL HIS SEXUAL DESIRE. SHE THINKS YOU’RE SO FUCKING STUPID AND SIMPLE THAT YOU WILL BECOME HER SLAVE AND FALL IN LOVE WITH HER JUST BECAUSE SHE MADE YOU WAIT TO FUCK HER. SHE THINKS YOU’RE NO MORE INTELLIGENT THAN AN ANIMAL.
The woman will try to use every manipulation and trick in the book to get you to wait for her. The vast array of manipulations she has at her disposal to make you feel sympathy for her will be employed against you. This is where the “nice guys” and White Knights always fall in battle. The Beta men believe in the myths of female frailty and sensitivity, and they “understand” her need to feel “comfortable” before giving him sex. A man who is “understanding” is just a chump because he’s putting her needs before his own, and that never pays off. An Alpha male never “understands”.
What’s funny is that directly after Kara King tells women to make men wait 60 days to fuck them, she tells women to keep a male “fuck friend” around to tide her over while she’s making the chump wait 60 days to fuck her. The fact is that women always break rules for Alphas and make rules for Betas. Women will always fuck Alphas immediately and make Betas wait as long as possible. She will make a Beta wait forever if she can get away with it. As Kara says in her book, “You’re always encouraged to wait longer. The longer the wait, the more he appreciates!”
The saddest thing about all of this is that, unfortunately, many men fall for this simple trick women use. They live in scarcity, and they fall into the pussy power traps of spending money on women, buying them gifts, taking them on vacations, being submissive to them, getting engaged, and entering marriage. These are all female traps and women use their pussies to lure men into them. If a man could just get sex for free with a woman forever, why would he ever marry her? It’s the regulation of providing her pussy to him and using his subsequent emotional need for her that always manipulates him into marriage. Pussy control comes first, emotional control comes second, and legal (marriage) control comes third. That’s the trifecta of female control over a Beta male.
In addition, many men have a preprogrammed emotional need for a new mommy care of the Feminine Imperative. The need for pussy combined with the emotional need for a new mommy dooms these men to lifelong servitude and misery, also known as marriage.
Marriage is horrible for men in every single way, and there are no benefits. I’ll expand on this in my future posts. The only reason a man ever enters into marriage is because he’s been manipulated by a woman and the Feminine Primary Social Order to do so.
What I’ve Seen in My Divorce Practice
And after the woman has extracted everything from the man and gets bored with him, he walks into my divorce practice as an emasculated, pathetic mess.
Take my word for it, I have seen this happen to thousands of men. I was in the trenches of divorce law for many years, 7 days a week, 24 hours a day, and I still interact with new men going through a divorce every week. I have consulted with over 5,000 couples and individuals contemplating or going through a divorce. I have seen this happen to men over, and over, and over again.
The story is always the same. He’s given everything he has to this woman, and it’s never been enough. He treated her like the princess she wanted to be treated like. He bought her everything she wanted, he took her on vacations, he bought her diamonds and rings, he married her, he gave her children, but she kept wanting more and more. It was never enough. It’s obvious gaslighting and manipulation on the woman’s part, but the White Knight men always want to make excuses for women and blame themselves.
The men that come into my office usually don’t cry in front of me, because I’m stoic and they don’t want to cry in front of another man. But as soon as they are alone with one of my female staff members the waterworks come. What’s ironic is my female staff members judge them harshly when I actually have sympathy for them. I overhear the women in my office snicker and make jokes amongst themselves about how much of a pussy he is and how small his dick must be. His entire belief system is based on the lie that women are the sensitive ones, and they will love him for who he is and take care of him when he needs it because he paid his dues to women his entire life as a “good man”. But women never uphold their end of the bargain, and they despise weak men and they always will.
His pain and suffering is real, and the woman he has lived his entire life for, sacrificed for, loved, and placated for the last 20 years abandons him when he needs her the most. Thousands of men in his situation take a gun to their head and pull the trigger every year.
And it all started 20 years ago on the first date. He was young and just wanted to fuck her, but she made him wait because she “wanted to get to know him better first”. So he waited, and that’s when she took control of the frame and never stopped controlling it. She dictated when they had sex, how they had sex, how often they had sex, and eventually everything else in the relationship from that point forward. This control usually starts out subtly and then grows as the relationship progresses. This subtle progression is a necessary part of her manipulation because he will likely leave if the domination comes all at once. She used the power of her pussy to string him along and keep him chasing a carrot he could never quite reach. He was permanently chasing an approval and validation that she has always intentionally withheld from him from the very beginning.
This is Kara King’s message to women: “You must realize that what you have in between your legs is a valuable tool to get men to do whatever you want them to do. Your vagina is the ultimate power! She will help you manipulate men and get them to bend over backwards at your will.”
Well, in my divorce practice I have met thousands of men that were on the receiving side of a woman that followed Kara and the Sisterhood’s advice. Men like this have been destroyed. This is why five times more men commit suicide than women. Men fall into these traps with women and they waste their entire lives on worthless women chasing worthless pussy. These men come to a harsh realization. What his woman and the Feminine Imperative promised in return for his lifelong dutiful behavior was all a lie, and he also loses everything that our social order taught him was his purpose for living, meaning his wife and family. It’s no wonder that so many men take their own lives after divorce.
Conclusion
You must always control the frame with women. The thing about frame is that once you’ve lost it with a woman you can never get it back, and any attempt to do so will drive you further into her frame. You have two options at that point, continue chasing her and be her slave until she gets bored of you, or drop her worthless ass and move on to the next one. It’s really an easy choice, but many men still make the wrong decision because they can’t control their sexual desire and their inner White Knights tell them they should suffer for her.
Your frame when you first meet a woman should be that the sex comes immediately. When she refuses to have sex with you and asks you to wait, you have lost frame. The sex will never be worth the wait. You have lost frame and you need to HARD NEXT her, which means move on and never talk to her again. Unless of course you want to end up like the poor bastards that slog into my divorce office, beaten and battered 20 years later…Your choice.
How fast do you HARD NEXT her? Follow the Three Strikes Rule religiously. If you haven’t fucked her after three dates then HARD NEXT her WITHOUT EXCEPTION.
I have created a more involved HARD NEXT rule that I will elaborate on in future posts. My rule is based on my extremely high level of experience with meeting women through online dating, and going on over one-thousand first dates. With practice, I became very good at fucking high value women on the first or second date over the years. The only reason it takes two dates to have sex sometimes is because the first date is a Sniff Test coffee date that I plan to be short.
I rarely ever make it past the second date before either having sex with her or HARD NEXTING her. The woman SHOULD FEEL THE PRESSURE that you will HARD NEXT her if she doesn’t fuck you immediately. If she values you and really likes you, she will fuck you on your timeline to keep you around.
Kara King tells women that making a man wait is a test to see if he “really likes her and values her”. Well the same thing applies to her fucking you immediately. Kara and Beta men think women are the prize to be won. But a woman isn’t worth anything past sex to men. Men bring everything to the table and women only bring their pussies. In reality, high value Alpha males are extremely rare and are the true prize, and all women know this subconsciously.
Women can play their childish manipulative games all they want, but when you master your own sexual desire they have absolutely nothing to control you with or bring to the table. As a man you should always believe you’re the prize, and if a woman doesn’t treat you that way then NEXT her. Her pussy is never worth it.