Introduction
The behavior that women and Beta men define as “asshole” behavior is almost always the strong, red-pill aware, Alpha male behavior of a man putting his own interests first. A man putting himself first, and being his Mental Point of Origin (“MPO”), is the only way he can live a healthy, successful, and fulfilling life. A man who lives this way is simultaneously extremely attractive and threatening to a woman.
Women have no interest in men being happy. They are only interested in optimizing their hypergamy and promoting their self-interest. The harsh realities and universal laws of female solipsism and hypergamy are something most men never realize or fully accept once they’ve realized the truth. Most men want to continue living in the fairy tales of equalism and female frailty for the rest of their lives. Men that stay in this blue-pill Beta mindset have little power with women, but they are comforted by the secondary payoffs of diminished responsibility and a decreased burden of performance. After all, if a man believes that “who he is” is what’s important, instead of “what he is”, he can feel good about his low Sexual Market Value (“SMV”), lack of wealth, obesity, and laziness. It’s “what’s on the inside” that really counts, and in his own mind he is the White Knight and greatest man in the world, on the inside. But the harsh reality is that, as a man, women and society only care about “what he is”, with “who he is” being almost entirely irrelevant.
The White Knight Beta Male Mindset
I have noticed that a lot of men use the phrase “I’m not an asshole” when justifying and referring to their blue-pill Beta behavior with women. They use this phrase a lot, especially when we are comparing the way I handle women compared to how they handle women. The difference between us is that I control everything in my life and women control everything in their lives. They may even consume red-pill content on a regular basis, and some even call themselves “coaches” of men and women. However, their belief systems, which are the foundations of their existence, are still rooted in blue-pill Feminine programming. They are attempting to build a red-pill building on a blue-pill foundation, which will inevitably lead to the building collapsing when life’s hurricanes come.
After analyzing this phenomenon in men, I’ve realized their use of the word “asshole”, and their avoidance of wanting to be seen as an “asshole”, is part of the same White Knight Beta male belief system that is programmed into men from birth.
Remember, women defining masculinity is the most insidious and manipulative tactic the Feminine Imperative uses to emasculate and control men. In our Feminine Primary Social Order (“FPSO”), women are the self-appointed, sole authorities on what thoughts, emotions, and behaviors are masculine and not masculine. Even though women have never lived a minute in a man’s shoes, they have more than enough arrogance and narcissism to believe they are qualified to dictate what masculinity is.
This reality is one of the primary reasons that so many men stay locked into the blue-pill Beta mindset their entire lives. In fact, many men that identify themselves as “Alpha” and “red-pill aware” still operate, and will always operate, with a belief system that has been created by women and the Feminine Imperative.
A Default Deference to Women
Nearly every man, except for the most unplugged and red-pill aware, believes that he should defer to women in some way, shape, or form. This is because the Feminine Imperative hijacks ideas and traits that are natural for men to have in order to promote their own agenda. This blue-pill programming happens from birth, and men are surrounded by the Feminine Imperative’s influence 24 hours a day, seven days a week, 365 days a year.
In order to enforce the male practice of this deference, women shame and chastise men in various ways. The “asshole” concept is one of the main techniques women use. Any man that fails to defer to women in any way is an “asshole” because he put himself first before women. How dare he put himself before a woman! The hypocrisy of women never ceases to amaze, as every “strong independent woman” proudly proclaims that she puts herself first before men. In fact, a woman “putting herself first” is one of the main tenants of Feminism and the Fempower Movement.
Men that defer to, finance, and placate women are the “good guys” that are “not assholes”. According to women, these men are the “real men” of the world that are “honorable” and “chivalrous”. Strangely though, women never have a genuine burning desire to fuck these deferential “real men”; They only want to extract resources from them because of the Beta Bucks side of their hypergamy. Women always want to fuck the “assholes” though.
I will outline the traits and ideas that women hijack and use against men to force deference below.
Honor
This is an idea that men are highly attracted to. Men typically believe that honor is one of highest ideals among men, and that honor is essential to being a masculine man. Honor is defined as, 1) Noun: “adherence to what is right or to a conventional standard of conduct” and 2) Verb: “fulfill (an obligation) or keep (an agreement).”
The Feminine Imperative hijacks the notion of honor, and programs men to believe that “what is right” and the “conventional standard of conduct”, is a permanent deference and submission to women in every way. When men follow the feminine-defined version of honor, it allows women to pursue unfettered hypergamy.
I am going to use the word “Offerings” in the explanation below. “Offerings” is my term to describe what men and women have that is valuable to the opposite sex. Offerings include money, resources, time, attention, validation, sex, emotion, and commitment.
Just like everything for women, “what is right” is dualistic (and usually hypocritical) depending on the context. Examples of dualistic definitions of “honorable”, “what is right” behavior in men and women are:
- Men must always keep their word with women no matter how their feelings and circumstances change. Women always the reserve the right to break their word with men when their feelings change and circumstances change.
- Men must pay for everything when dating a woman regardless of the income levels of the parties and the “equality” that women achieve in pay in our society.
- Men must always be honest to women. Women are honest with men only when it serves their agenda.
- Men must never cheat on women. Women are allowed to have male “friends”, real-life orbiters, social media orbiters, “work husbands”, ex-husbands, and ex-boyfriends in their lives and they will aggressively resist any attempt to remove these potential mates from their lives.
- Men must care about a woman and want more from her than “just sex”. Women interact with a man only to extract and gain Offerings from him. Women are utilitarian by nature, and they interact with men purely to extract and gain Offerings from them, and sex is their main weapon and negotiation tool in achieving this goal.
- Men must never abandon a woman and always “have a woman’s back” no matter what. Women with higher Sexual Market Value (“SMV”) options will always abandon a man if he loses his wealth, social status, career, game, and/or physical attractiveness.
Chivalry
Women always claim to want a “chivalrous” and “old-fashioned” man. What they are really saying is that they want all the benefits afforded to women in a bygone era of female inferiority with none of the costs of that era. In addition, women want all the benefits of their current status as the dominant gender (under the auspices of “equality”) with none of the costs.
They want all the benefits of the “old-fashioned” man, which include the man paying for everything, pursuing her, courting her, waiting long periods of time for sex, and being submissive and docile towards her. They want a “chivalrous” man that pays for everything, gets the door for them, puts “ladies first”, and rides in to “save the day” when she’s in distress.
Essentially, women want to have their cake and eat it too. The only reason women enjoyed the above benefits in historical times were because men had a much better “deal” with women in those eras. For every benefit women had, they paid an equal or greater cost to men. This was a time when the “deal” of marriage for men was much better and actually made sense.
In this inherently competitive world, every benefit women receive is a cost to men. Every benefit men receive is a cost to women. In mathematics, this is called an “inverse relationship” or “inverse correlation”. “An inverse relationship is identified between two variables, which are interrelated but the change of one causes the opposite change to the other.” (Link).
This is why “equality” (and the myth of Equalism) between men and women is fundamentally impossible and is an intentional lie by the Feminine Imperative. Women advance their agenda of dominance over men under the auspices of “equality”. “Equality” is misdirection, a false flag, and a Trojan Horse all wrapped into one. Women use the notion of “equality” to confuse, manipulate, and lower the defenses of men. Since the Sexual Revolution of the 1960s, the use of “equality” has been extremely effective in decreasing the power of men while increasing the power of women. Now women want all the benefits of the eras prior and subsequent to the Sexual Revolution with none of the costs.
The “deal” between men and women has changed, and it has now become extremely unfair to men. The only reason men accepted the costs in the era before the Sexual Revolution was because they received equal to or greater benefits in return. Now, under the new rules, or new “set of books”, of the Feminine Primary Social Order, all of the prior benefits for men have been stripped away and the costs have exponentially increased. For women, all of the costs have been have been stripped away and the benefits have exponentially increased. This leaves men with only one choice: They must become red-pill aware and play by a new set of rules to regain their power with women.
Women’s Honorable Tool
The man that thinks he is honorable and chivalrous towards women is merely just a tool. The Feminine Imperative has defined masculinity for him, and he thinks he’s being a masculine Alpha male when really he’s the Beta, White Knight, Captain Save-A-Hoe that is easy for women to manipulate and take advantage of. He believes that women are frail, sensitive, helpless creatures and he comes galloping on his high-horse whenever a woman needs help moving, hanging curtains, or fixing a busted pipe. He brought all his tools and picked up the supplies from Home Depot on his way! No he doesn’t want to be reimbursed because he’s such a “great guy”! He thinks maybe “this time” he’ll get some pussy, but the pussy never comes.
He’s proud that he’s not an “asshole” and he’s one of the “good guys”. That gives him fake status with women and his female friends (he has a lot of them) will always positively reinforce his deferential personality with compliments and pats on the back but never sex. He hates the abusive “assholes” that “screw over” all his female friends, but for some reason he’s always jerking off at home alone instead of fucking women like those “assholes” are. However, he is so extremely ego-invested in being a “good guy” that is “honorable” and “chivalrous”, that he will never change his ways, no matter how big the mountain of evidence against his deferential ways grows.
In reality, this type of Beta male promotes the modern destruction of men more than women themselves. He is a puppet of women, with the Feminine Imperative’s hand shoved up his ass controlling his mouth and behaviors. That hand up his ass is the only sex he gets. He’s the modern male Feminist without even knowing it. For all his tireless assistance and “honor”, women give him zero sex and nothing else in return. But in his own mind he believes he’s winning, because he was taught since birth that this is how a “real man” lives.
Don’t be mistaken though and think the above extreme version is the only male tool of the Feminine Imperative. One of the most deferential things a man can do is get down on one knee, prostrate himself before a woman, present a very expensive ring, and ask (beg) her to accept him as her “life partner”. That’s called an engagement and marriage. Sometimes women have sex with their tools too, but not very passionately or frequently after the marriage vows of course. A great way to avoid this particular form of slavery is to NEVER GET MARRIED!
Get In Touch With Your Asshole Side
Let me give you some advice, bastard. Never forget what you are. The rest of the world will not. Wear it like armor, and it can never be used to hurt you.-Tyrion Lannister in Game of Thrones
In this scene in the first season of Game of Thrones, Tyrion explaining to Jon Snow that he can turn his illegitimacy, in a society obsessed with birth and bloodlines, into his greatest asset. He can own the insult of “bastard” and be great in spite of it, just like Tyrion raises his social status throughout the series despite being a dwarf.
Let’s face it, if you’re a true Alpha male that that fucks a lot of women, both women and men are going to call you an asshole. You’re rare, and you’re going to stick out in a world full of dominant women and Beta bitch men. In fact, if a man has never been called an asshole, he probably has a pretty low body count. As a red-pill, strong, independent, self-serving Alpha male, YOU ARE AN ASSHOLE TO MOST OF THE WORLD because the world wants you to be a submissive bitch boy! You may as well embrace it and identify with being an asshole, because that’s what you are, and being an asshole is glorious. Tyrion embraced being a midget and it turned out well for him!
Men that never get married are definitely assholes. When a man refuses to submit to a woman’s marriage ultimatum he should proudly wear the title donned upon him! Good job asshole, you just dodged a bullet, ensured lifelong happiness, and prevented your own destruction. She was going to abandon you, take your children, take half your business, and take half your money anyways. You are one smart (and rich) asshole that gets to fuck multiple women for the rest of his life!
Conclusion
In a Feminine Primary Social Order that is obsessed with emasculating and feminizing men, a red-pill aware Alpha male will always be an “asshole”.
In light of the fact that women will use any means necessary, and “take the gloves off”, when pursuing their selfish, hypergamous goals, what real benefit do you derive from “not being an asshole”? If you’re benefitting yourself and not breaking the law by having hard boundaries with women, what are you really losing besides some imaginary superiority? Is their some cosmic game you’re playing where “nice guy” Beta behavior gets rewarded in this life that I’m not aware of? Women do not “feel bad” about using subversive, manipulative, and dishonest tactics when dominating men, so why are you so committed to being “nice” and “honorable” with women?
I am not advocating that men adopt devious behavior, but I am suggesting that a man’s interactions with women are always a battle and part of a larger war. Your “honor” and imaginary superiority in sticking to hand-to-hand combat means nothing when she shoots you with a gun. It’s insane to expect to win the battle when you bring your fists to a gun fight. You get to feel superior when you don’t “stoop to her level” but does that matter when you’re on the ground bleeding out? No, it doesn’t.
The White Knights of the world do not truly understand, or want to understand, the nature of women, which makes them blind to what women are capable of. Metaphorically, they believe the fight is “fair” and “equal” with women, with both sides playing by the same rules using only their fists. When women shoot them dead, they fall back on their “honor” and imaginary superiority to fool themselves into thinking they won, when in reality they were dominated and trounced by the woman.
You would think men would “wake up” after getting so destroyed by women, but in my divorce practice, I saw men lose everything to women, including all their money and relationships with their children, OVER AND OVER AND OVER AGAIN. A woman divorces him, and he just keeps getting married and going back for more punishment.
I will always remember one particular male client. He was a millionaire in his 70s. He had slaved his entire life to build his wealth. He was married to a trophy, stay-at-home wife for 20 years that never worked. It was his third marriage and his two previous wives had taken half of his assets in each divorce. His third wife left him for a younger man, and he allowed her to spend $30,000 of his money per month traveling around the country fucking the young stud for a whole year before he cut her off and hired me to file a divorce. His sagely advice to me about handling women was, “you just have to keep loving them and giving to them no matter what they do”.
I now refer to him as the King of Beta Bitches. Don’t be that guy.